Remember when you couldn’t wait to become an adult?  I’ll let you in on a few secrets about being an adult.  It’s not all glittery and gold and sometimes the glitter you threw in the air can’t ever come out.

  1. Degrees only take you so far.  Growing up, you are told that getting a perfect 4.0 and attending the best Ivy League schools like Stanford or Harvard will guarantee success.  Having the name of a well-respected school on your resume helps you get a foot-in-the-door for your first few years of your career, but eventually it fades.  Once you start working, you will succeed on your skills, not your degree.  As you move onto your second and third job, no one cares for your transcripts or where you went to school.
  2. Parents DO know best.  As a child, you threw fits over why your parent said no.  They always said, one day you will understand.  That day comes when you enter your late 20’s, you realize nearly everything they said was right and you should call them to thank them.
  3. Dream jobs don’t exist.  There is no such thing as a perfect job.  If you love your job, you may have a horrible manager. If you have a great manager, maybe a horrible team. At the end of the day, a job is a paycheck and it shouldn’t be your life.
  4. Time is limited.  In your 20’s, you have all the time in the world.  The minute you hit your 30’s, I don’t know if there is a fast-forward button, but hours, days, and months fly by.
  5. Doing good and being good doesn’t always coincide.  You will soon realize life is not fair, the rules don’t always perfectly equal out as everyone believed growing up.
  6. Money isn’t everything, balance is bliss.  Money is very important to have a comfortable life, but because time is so limited before working 18 hour days, decide if it is worth that extra $5 K a year.  As you get older, you cannot be a workaholic forever.
  7. Friendships change, just like you.  You will notice over time, you will lose friends and gain new friends. Even if you have lifelong friends, at some point, they change as well.  Don’t be sad, don’t be angry, it’s a part of the circle of life. As you move onto different chapters of your life, so will all those around you and different priorities take over.  It doesn’t mean your friendship wasn’t real, it doesn’t mean you will never speak again, but the best friend you spoke to every day now has a husband, 2 kids, and a full-time job and your friendship cannot compete with those commitments, nor should it.
  8. Don’t try to be perfect.  We are human. No one said we have to be perfect and you will never be no matter how hard you try.  Stop seeking for perfection, the best thing you can do is strive to better yourself each day. The key word being “better” yourself, not be the perfect version of yourself.
  9. The world is massive. Explore it.  Travel as much as you can. Open your eyes, learn about different cultures, experience the world.  You will hear many people say, I wish I could travel, but I don’t have the time or the means.  Trust me, it’s better to travel as an adult. You don’t have as much time, but you have money to check bucket list items off versus when you were a poor college student.
  10. The word “free-spirit” is an oxymoron.  This word is a fantasy that somehow has become the buzzword for this generation.  Being a free-spirit isn’t possible. You can be “care-free,” but you still have to be responsible with having a job, committing to things, paying bills, etc…
  11. Mail is not fun.  When you get mail as adult, it’s not a birthday card. It is usually the Finance Fairy paying you a visit with a bill, a ticket, or taxes.
  12. Failed relationships happen.  In every Disney movie, no one ever has a NOT SO HAPPILY ENDING.  In reality, because a relationship doesn’t work out, even in the case of a marriage and it entails a divorce, it doesn’t mean two people are not good people.  It just means that they may not be good together.

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