For everyone who has broken up…aren’t you sick of hearing the same thing…
- You’ll find someone better
- There is a better match for you
- Mr. Right will come when you least expect it
- The pain will heal with time
- Eventually you’ll forget S
So every girl talks about Mr. Right. I don’t know if there is only one Mr. Right. I do think that chemistry is definitely a factor, but also having the same goals and dreams in life.
It took me a while to figure this out, but S and I are on completely different paths and timing, but that did not mean that we did not have a great two years with so many memories. Costco without him is a weird experience. That man was just so unique. We were a great couple, just not the right timing, experience or goals. I was his first girlfriend and he was so different than the men I used to date, so mistakes were made on both ends.
Make sure to find someone on the same path as you. It makes things so much easier.
Here are a few things we saw differently; he wanted to live his life before marriage. I on the other hand believe in marriage and then creating a life together with many adventures. Also, if you have never dated anyone, you’ll never know how good you had it. I’d rather date someone with many girlfriends the next time I pick someone.
They say that every person comes into our life for a reason. S and I definitely had a reason to cross paths. I truly do believe it was not by accident that he crossed my path. When a relationship ends, some people get bitter, others get angry, for me, you have to see it as a life lesson. When life gives you lemons, you make lemonade.
Why I have been changed for the better?
- Every man I dated before was extremely ambitious and powerful to a fault. Those types of men will never make you their number one priority, plus you are expected to be a trophy wife. I want to date another man with many of the qualities that S had given me (Humor, kindness, spontaneity, etc…)
- A man will drive the distance to be with you. If you are his, he’ll make the effort. S drove to my house at least 2-3 times a week for two years.
- Realized how important a sense of humor is. As I’ve been going out on the dates, before I met S, I would have said, “Wow this guy is great.” Now, if they don’t make me laugh, I can’t even go on a second date.
- Be an adventurer. One of the things that I loved about S was that he would do anything I wanted to do. I have asked each of my dates so far if they would swim with a whale shark. 99% said no. They have all been axed. I need a man who will do something out of their comfort zone.
- I would date a guy based on a checklist. S was not even close to everything on my checklist, but yet, he made me the happiest.
- Looks used to matter. Now, going forward, personality trumps all.
- Learning not to control every situation. Just living life as things happen
- Learning not to care. I spent so much time trying to care about making S so happy, I forgot what made me happy. I love to network, meet people, volunteer, and going out with my friends.