Money Can’t Buy Happiness and neither can a Mercedes

In my phone, he’s nicknamed Mercedes and he was Polly’s favorite potential from my bucket. She’s still slightly upset things did not work out. She thought he was so good-looking and so did Sanam.

I met S at the Whole Foods in Fairfax while I was picking something up for a party. Standing in the produce section, a guy came up to me and just boldly said hi. I looked up, he had a smile that could make you blush, dark hair, good build, and dressed in a well-fitted grey suit.

Sanam makes it a joke and tells everyone that we met in the meat aisle and he said what kind of kabob are you looking for? I just shake my head at her. She makes it sound so dirty!

He asked me what I was looking for and where I am from. We chatted for awhile and I had to leave for the party. As I left, he asked if he could take me on a date.

After a month, I agreed to a first date. He took me out to dinner and he was a perfect gentleman, opening the doors, holding my purse, making me feel like he craved me. He was about 10 years older than me, which made him move really quickly. That made me put the brakes because I think he was focused with the idea of being with someone like me than loving me for all my flaws.

It’s ironic because S promised me everything that I wanted in my last relationship and much more, but I realized, it wasn’t going to make me happy.

• • When he told me he loved me, I couldn’t say it back…ever.
  • Wanted me to meet his family. I wasn’t ready.
  • Asked me to move in with him. I said I am old fashion and would not do that until we are married. A little while later, he asked if he could marry me. When my girlfriends saw that text…you should have heard the shock. I asked what is the rush? He said when you know you know. You don’t know until hard situations come up where you know that person will be there for you.
  • Said that he would give me everything I wanted if I would marry him. He was going to take me to Galleria to pick the largest ring and he told me my engagement gift would be a Mercedes. I said I like my CRV, he said no wife of mine will be driving that around.

• I sent this to Karen and she was rolling, but one day he wrote me and said I’m getting really nervous. I said for what? He’s like the wedding. My response: You are missing one thing…A bride. Karen’s response #runawaybride.

It went on for months. I told him I couldn’t give him everything he wanted. He begged to see me one more time and that’s when he tried to put the keys to the Mercedes in my hand.  I even asked him what was so great about me, there are plenty of other women.  I don’t know why I couldn’t just take a leap of faith with him, he was everything I wanted and said the right things, but in the end, I couldn’t do it.

I gave it back and said I can’t and walked away. That was the last time I ever saw him.